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The Day the Stones Cried

August 31, 2021 By Maryann Curran

Several years  ago we visited the ground zero area.  This story originated there and hopefully will impact you with its implications and meaning….

On September 11, 2001, no one in the cemetery moved!  Instead, the old, deteriorated, headstones observed the end of over 3,000 lives. Stoic and quiet, facing the disastrous demise of the twin towers, the many stones remained as the ground rumbled around them.

Loss of lives, loss of modern buildings and the loss of anything definite in life, occurred in an instant!  One-minute people were standing at the coffee station and the next running down a stairwell.  One-minute sipping hot liquid and the next minute frantically leaving messages on home answering machines as they filed down the long staircase.

statue of libertyNone of us will ever know what thoughts raced through thousands of heads. Perhaps with God’s loving intervention, fear was only minuscule.  Perhaps, hope, good memories, plans for that evening prevailed as the people trudged down the concrete steps. I do believe that hope reigned fully and freely as a gift from our Lord.

The stone grave markers and the stone steps really only shared their substance in common. Concrete has a lasting presence with its hard strength created from sand and water.  However, that terrible day saw little strength in the concrete building walls as they collapsed into dust and rubble. Across the street, the gravestones stood like statues observing and absorbing the horrible explosions.

The stone markers had survived generations but the stone buildings were gone forever.  Two kinds of markers created by humankind.  One still standing and the other lying in a smoldering heap.

Now, twenty years later, there is still a quiet sadness in downtown Manhattan at Ground Zero. When I compare the gravestones, I think of sadness long ago felt by families who buried their loved ones here.  Then I think of the sadness of families who lost a loved one in the twin towers who would never have a grave marker to visit.

Perhaps God’s plan was to have the cemetery exactly where it still stands today.  Perhaps long ago, in His infinite wisdom, God knew of this eventual tragedy providing some comfort through those old burial sites. With this in mind, I chose to believe this philosophy and find peace thinking that no one died alone. I pictured the arms of the grave spirits reaching out to embrace those falling from the skies.

Several years ago, I saw a painting depicting the falling towers and a cloud of people being lifted up to Heaven.  I like that idea and think the artist had a beautiful vision. If I had lost someone that day, comfort would be possible looking at that painting.

After my visit to Ground Zero, I have many memories.  In the early afternoon, there was little talk as people stood to observe the sacred setting.  Others almost rushed by towards their busy lives. Perhaps they were trying to ignore the real feelings still shared by visitors like us. I do not hold that against anyone… I think it is human.  If I passed by on a regular basis, perhaps I too would hurry on the crowded sidewalks.

For now, I am content to be saturated in the sadness of the disaster.  Yet, in fairness to God and to the victims staying in that kind of thinking is… wrong!  Like the stone markers, this place will live on forever.  Different structures will be built, all the debris hauled away and new, young trees planted.  However, the aura of 9-11 will always be present.

I do believe that the voices of those lost still fill the sound waves. I believe that their spirits will always be present as a gift to their families.  I believe that they all would have loved to leave a message. “Hi Honey, I’m on my way home from work. Can’t wait to see you.” However, they could not.

In honor of that infamous day, we should not take America for granted.  We need to be thankful for the little things in life knowing that like gravestones, we all will strive to leave our mark on the world. No matter how long we are here, we can make a difference.

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Comments

  1. Ray Czapkowski says

    September 11, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    As I put up my flag this morning–with its mourning band flapping at the head of the pole–the aura of 9/11 was strongly present. Like the passing of Lincoln or the Pearl Harbor bombing, this day will echo strongly with Americans for a generation or two. Then time will heal, as it always does, and Americans will continue the beat of freedom, meeting new challenges bravely.
    Thank you, Maryann, for honoring the victims of 9/11 with your caring and inspiring words.

  2. Barb Powell says

    September 11, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    Thanks Maryann for your poignant tribute to those who lost their lives on 9/11. It gave me pause to think about how great this country is and how proud I am to be an American.

  3. John Taylor says

    September 11, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    This article is very moving – as all of her articles are. I visited Ground Zero 2 years after the aftermath. It was amazing of the size of the area and the remnants of the towers that still existed in waste heaps. I had visited with a few co-workers. We typically were very jovial and having a nice time. For the 10 minutes we stood at the subway station looking down into the “pit”, none of us said a word – we only stared and prayed. And the worst part? We parked in a side street 1 block from the area. It was absolutely amazing and scary that the area surrounding that area was so cramped! There were even photos of the lost souls that family had put on the walls still! It absolutely gave me the chills.

    And after that visit, we then drove to a pier that looks at the skyline and the statue of Liberty. Once again, we all were at a loss for words. We all attempted to envision the clouds of smoke and the poor folks attempting to get over the bridge and away from downtown that day.

    As Maryann continues to show through expressive words and poignant stories, this situation will never be forgotten, nor will the families of the victims.

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This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.

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~ Dr. Lynn Deegan, Psy. D.

"I have known Mary for almost 25 years and have read many of her manuscripts. From We to Me is by far the most beautiful of her works. She painstakingly shares her memories of the first 365 days of her life as a widow, including moving events most of us would be too embarrassed to reveal.  I recommend this to not only those who have lost a loved one, but to anyone who is afraid to feel.  This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.”
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“I’ve read 38 letters…I am taking my time and reading few each night enjoying each letter. I always find something...

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“I’ve read 38 letters…I am taking my time and reading few each night enjoying each letter. I always find something that I can relate to in losing my parents and even my cat, KitKat.  Yesterday was 11 months since Dad had died and I found myself getting out of bed last night and going into his room to talk to him. I love the story of JT and Kelly walking in your footprints…how wonderful. Thank you again for your beautiful gift.”
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~ Neal

"What makes FROM WE TO ME different than other books on grief is the openness of the author and her honesty with her feelings. Not kid gloves but boxing gloves are a good way to illustrate how she treats the elements of her loss e.g. anger, fear and regret. She is honest and that is what most of us need when a loss inflicts pain on our “perfect” worlds. Thank you Maryann.”
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