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My Bucket List

November 14, 2021 By Maryann Curran Leave a Comment

Because I think reevaluating our lives even our hopes and dreams is important, I wrote this story.

bucket_listThe movie, THE BUCKET LIST, came out several years ago.  My husband and I went to see it, sharing  the film with hundreds of people sitting around us.  We heard “ohhs” and “ahhs” throughout its story-line not only because of the acting but also because of the beautiful places photographed.  Several of them we too had visited.

The messages from this movie were first, to have a bucket list, and second, go before you are ill and cannot travel.  I am sure all of us have heard people lament, “If only I had gone sooner,” or “I am going to wait just a little longer.”  Usually lack of funds is the excuse and that is a reality but what I have learned is: Go as soon as you can even if it means sacrifices need to be made. I assure you that most people, upon their deathbeds, would not say,  “I wish I had spent more time at the office.”

Several years ago, our good friends and we traveled to Africa.  We toured South Africa, enjoying the cities of Cape Town and Johannesburg , went down to Cape Horn and thrilled to Botswana‘s safari experiences.  We sampled wine — South African wine — and marveled at the African sunsets.  We saw all the animals except a Cheeta, giggled watching baboons chase each other, missed our morning toast once because a monkey swooped down and scooped up the only loaf of  bread, and experienced the majesty of elephants and lions.  All four of us checked these destinations off our bucket lists while storing unbelievable memories.

I have one more far away destination on my list.  That place is Antarctica.  Believe it or not, my brother and I will be there this time next year.  Keeping my sense of humor when I tell people this is on my bucket list, they roll their eyes and say, ”Why, when you live in Florida, would you want to go there?”

This is my answer… my heart has always loved freedom, open spaces and fresh air. I imagine that I will experience this in Antarctica.  I go with no expectations except to experience the animals, the ice and snow and also the peaceful, wind-filled air. I look forward to my frosty nose, the warmth in my gloves, my insulated boots and at night, a hot toddy before bed.  I like to feel like a pioneer in our inhabited world and look forward to observing all that Antarctica has to offer.  I know I will not be disappointed.

Let me share some other items that have dotted my bucket list!

  1. Earning a Master’s Degree.
  2. Going to the Galapagos
  3. Going to Africa
  4. Writing a book
  5. Watching my granddaughter grow up
  6. Going to Antarctica
  7. Working hard on being healthy
  8. Being very thin and in shape
  9. Owning a Cadillac
  10. Being a great daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother, friend and neighbor.

As you can see, many of these things are tangible and several are not.  I have grown to accept that number 8 will never be achieved but I keep trying.  The others, I believe, I have achieved and treasure their impacting memories.

The most essential goal I have achieved is to be Happy and Thankful to God for blessing me.  I just hope I have fulfilled HIS BUCKET LIST for me!

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This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.

"I have known Mary for almost 25 years and have read many of her manuscripts. From We to Me is by far the most beautiful of her works. She painstakingly shares her memories of the first 365 days of her life as a widow, including moving events most of us would be too embarrassed to reveal.  I recommend this to not only those who have lost a loved one, but to anyone who is afraid to feel.  This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.”

~ Dr. Lynn Deegan, Psy. D.

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~ Dr. Lynn Deegan, Psy. D.

"I have known Mary for almost 25 years and have read many of her manuscripts. From We to Me is by far the most beautiful of her works. She painstakingly shares her memories of the first 365 days of her life as a widow, including moving events most of us would be too embarrassed to reveal.  I recommend this to not only those who have lost a loved one, but to anyone who is afraid to feel.  This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1249/

Thank you again for your beautiful gift.

“I’ve read 38 letters…I am taking my time and reading few each night enjoying each letter. I always find something that I can relate to in losing my parents and even my cat, KitKat.  Yesterday was 11 months since Dad had died and I found myself getting out of bed last night and going into his room to talk to him. I love the story of JT and Kelly walking in your footprints…how wonderful. Thank you again for your beautiful gift.”

~ Nanette

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2019-05-01T11:46:35-04:00

~ Nanette

“I’ve read 38 letters…I am taking my time and reading few each night enjoying each letter. I always find something that I can relate to in losing my parents and even my cat, KitKat.  Yesterday was 11 months since Dad had died and I found myself getting out of bed last night and going into his room to talk to him. I love the story of JT and Kelly walking in your footprints…how wonderful. Thank you again for your beautiful gift.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1250/

She is honest and that is what most of us need…

"What makes FROM WE TO ME different than other books on grief is the openness of the author and her honesty with her feelings. Not kid gloves but boxing gloves are a good way to illustrate how she treats the elements of her loss e.g. anger, fear and regret. She is honest and that is what most of us need when a loss inflicts pain on our “perfect” worlds. Thank you Maryann.”

~ Neal

Maryann Hartzell-Curran
2019-05-01T11:47:04-04:00

~ Neal

"What makes FROM WE TO ME different than other books on grief is the openness of the author and her honesty with her feelings. Not kid gloves but boxing gloves are a good way to illustrate how she treats the elements of her loss e.g. anger, fear and regret. She is honest and that is what most of us need when a loss inflicts pain on our “perfect” worlds. Thank you Maryann.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1251/

Her words spoke to me, reassuring me…

“I loved Maryann’s first book for many reasons -- the main one that when I read it, my husband of 55 years had just died. Her words spoke to me reassuring me that my feelings were a lot like hers and my day to day walk alone was comforted by God’s love. I can’t wait to read the new book because I have started dating and have lots of questions. I know she will cover that in her new book, FROM ME TO WE.”

~ Patricia B.

Maryann Hartzell-Curran
2019-05-01T11:48:26-04:00

~ Patricia B.

“I loved Maryann’s first book for many reasons -- the main one that when I read it, my husband of 55 years had just died. Her words spoke to me reassuring me that my feelings were a lot like hers and my day to day walk alone was comforted by God’s love. I can’t wait to read the new book because I have started dating and have lots of questions. I know she will cover that in her new book, FROM ME TO WE.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1253/
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Thank you to all my followers and greetings to my new ones. Many of you were introduced to my work after reading my first book, FROM WE TO ME…letters to my friend. This was published in the fall of 2013 and has enjoyed some success. Many of those who have read the book have written encouraging comments, saying it was helpful to those who are experiencing grief.

And now…. I’m introducing my second book, From Me to We. Lots of people have asked me why I wrote it, and it’s because I wanted to share my years after the first year, detailed in From We to Me, with readers. I always emphasize that my experiences are just that… mine… and hopefully they will open people’s eyes inviting them to have similar ones. I keep my sense of humor throughout the book but also emphasize how difficult a lot of days were without my husband. Written in three parts, Section One, is how I grew up,  after the death of my husband, Section Two, the beginning of my socializing again, Section Three… taking a chance, falling in love and marrying again.  The stories are candid and the information honest and straightforward.  I’m hoping the book will help lots of people.

I continue to write my Overcoming Grief Blog and have written many stories on my Facebook page. Reading your responses has touched me deeply and given me a nudge to keep on writing. I invite you to spend some time exploring the resources and ideas within my website:

– If you’re looking for a gift for someone who has recently lost their spouse, my first book From We to Me is an ideal way to offer comfort.

– Feeling down and need some inspiration? Read some of my short stories based on experiences with my grief groups as well as personal experience in the Overcoming Grief blog section.

– Did you know I lead grief groups? I am a professional who speaks from the heart. Whether you are looking to start a grief group series or you want her to speak at your next event, contact us. I can bring wisdom and humor to those who need it most.

– If you enjoy sharing tidbits about your childhood with your grandchildren, you may enjoy some of my memoirs posted in Letters to my Granddaughter. I know a lot of you will relate to these letters, and I invite you to write your own.

SO…Welcome to you all. Thank you for all of your support over the years as I made my transition FROM WE TO ME and then FROM ME TO WE.

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What people are saying about "From Me to We"

This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.

"I have known Mary for almost 25 years and have read many of her manuscripts. From We to Me is...

~ Dr. Lynn Deegan, Psy. D.

Maryann Hartzell-Curran
2019-05-01T11:46:04-04:00

~ Dr. Lynn Deegan, Psy. D.

"I have known Mary for almost 25 years and have read many of her manuscripts. From We to Me is by far the most beautiful of her works. She painstakingly shares her memories of the first 365 days of her life as a widow, including moving events most of us would be too embarrassed to reveal.  I recommend this to not only those who have lost a loved one, but to anyone who is afraid to feel.  This is a journey of courage; one that we will all travel someday.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1249/

Thank you again for your beautiful gift.

“I’ve read 38 letters…I am taking my time and reading few each night enjoying each letter. I always find something...

~ Nanette

Maryann Hartzell-Curran
2019-05-01T11:46:35-04:00

~ Nanette

“I’ve read 38 letters…I am taking my time and reading few each night enjoying each letter. I always find something that I can relate to in losing my parents and even my cat, KitKat.  Yesterday was 11 months since Dad had died and I found myself getting out of bed last night and going into his room to talk to him. I love the story of JT and Kelly walking in your footprints…how wonderful. Thank you again for your beautiful gift.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1250/

She is honest and that is what most of us need…

"What makes FROM WE TO ME different than other books on grief is the openness of the author and her...

~ Neal

Maryann Hartzell-Curran
2019-05-01T11:47:04-04:00

~ Neal

"What makes FROM WE TO ME different than other books on grief is the openness of the author and her honesty with her feelings. Not kid gloves but boxing gloves are a good way to illustrate how she treats the elements of her loss e.g. anger, fear and regret. She is honest and that is what most of us need when a loss inflicts pain on our “perfect” worlds. Thank you Maryann.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1251/

Her words spoke to me, reassuring me…

“I loved Maryann’s first book for many reasons -- the main one that when I read it, my husband of...

~ Patricia B.

Maryann Hartzell-Curran
2019-05-01T11:48:26-04:00

~ Patricia B.

“I loved Maryann’s first book for many reasons -- the main one that when I read it, my husband of 55 years had just died. Her words spoke to me reassuring me that my feelings were a lot like hers and my day to day walk alone was comforted by God’s love. I can’t wait to read the new book because I have started dating and have lots of questions. I know she will cover that in her new book, FROM ME TO WE.”
https://maryanncurran.com/testimonials/1253/
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